Introduction

It has been discussed in various books and testimonials that killing is akin to losing one’s “virginity”. Those who are engaged in lifestyles of combat and survival often wonder what the “ultimate test” feels like. The past, present, and aftermath of making love and war share many facets and aspects with each other. The emotions that arise from the act of bringing life into being and taking it away are strikingly similar. It can be a transient experience, where one is outside the body, watching it engage in acts they would never commit in a conscious state. The psychological effects of both acts can leave unhealable scars that cause the individuals to experience a myriad of emotions, including pride, fear, and compassion for their combatants.

Senergy

Thrilling and terrifying at the same time, something so intensely short-lived is locked in a special vault in the mind for a lifetime. The mechanics we humans use as an approach to both acts are synonymous in nature. There is a mission within to subdue the intended target. Soldiers “hunt” enemy forces just as a Seducer “hunts” their intended sexual conquest. Strategy is involved in both instances, a waltz to be danced to by the opposing parties. There are many moving parts to this dance, but one thing remains…both parties have to agree to “dance”, or the entire dynamic crumbles.

Warfare

As the initial confrontation begins, the combatants must acknowledge each other in order for battle to commence. These entanglements begin with posturing, preliminary passive tactics to either draw the enemy to engage or scare them into fleeing. This is the flirty eye contact that gives the impression of a potential dance partner. The beauty of this first stage is that it takes place on both sides simultaneously, in equal but opposing directions. Just as an army can utilize loud noises and synchronized chants to scare off enemy lines without firing a single shot, humor and flattery are weapons of choice for the seducer. As passive means of combat escalate, tension rises, and direct combat becomes unavoidable. As one side’s defenses weaken and initial resistance lowers, an intercourse takes place with one side ringing victorious, while the other is conquered. 

Aftercare

In the aftermath of the act, there are equal and opposite costs on both sides. The victor revels in the spoils of their newfound conquest over a vulnerable foe, or one they did not have complete confidence they could vanquish. They grow prideful in the sport of defeating an inferior opponent or are amazed at their skill in defeating such a worthy opponent. One may even be astonished at their opponent’s mere engagement, given their losses were more valuable if defeated. The conquered, with bruised pride and ego, wonder where they went wrong. What holes in their resistance ensured defeat? How did they not have the foresight to realize disengagement was the more sensible path? Now at the mercy of their conqueror, they can only hope they were impressive enough in battle to be worthy of recruitment. If not, the physical and psychological wounds will remain.

The Ghost

Armed with the experience of defeating them, the conqueror will continue to come back, subsequently taking more and more. Due to this frequent pillaging, the conquered eventually lose their identity and are forced either by submission or willful surrender to adopt the culture and customs of their new master. The submissive festers in resentment, waiting for the chance to rebel again and regain their sovereignty. One who surrenders acquiesces to the whims of their master, hoping that one day their sovereignty will be given back to them out of mercy or pity when they aren’t deemed useful anymore.